This depressed me.
I think its pretty clear that I'm a romantic. I love to see the love story in everything. Since I was little I enjoyed watching Ariel, Belle, and Cinderella finding their true love and conquering over the villain because of the strength of that love. I clearly remember in fifth grade, when we had to do an "All About Me" report, my favorite book at the time was "A Kiss Between Friends". I'm pretty sure I was the only one who hadn't chosen a title off our reading list at random. It has, shall we say, enchanted me for my whole life: this idea of there being a perfect match for everyone. A Mr. Right for the ladies I guess.
I've also spent the last 9 years reading romance novels, so I can now pretty much see the romantic potential in any situation. But, the last 6 years of being out in the real world have also changed how I see romance and love themselves. I can clearly look at a situation and see how changing one small thing--maybe a phrase or action--can turn the moment from ordinary to extraordinary. At least, for those involved. But I can also now see how longing for the extraordinary can kill all the potential for the evolution of the ordinary. How holding out for Mr. Right, can ruin the opportunity for Mr. Right Now to evolve into Mr. Right.
I'm not saying that I don't still dream of finding that perfect someone for me, that one person the universe has decided I fit perfectly with, the Prince Eric to my Ariel as it were. But I have grown up and realize that maybe 8 times out of 10 that "Kiss Between Friends" will most likely fuck up a perfectly good friendship.
The really depressing part of seeing that book title wasn't the fact that we, as a society, have seemingly given up on our romantic ideals, but that settling for Mr. Right Now sounded like a good idea to me.
Also, I don't know what the fuck the book actually says inside.
3 comments:
i love this post. i think we have very similar viewpoints on this topic.
that's why we're married.
I don't believe in Mr. Right. There is no such thing because really, relationships take work. There's no way that you'll ever find someone who is absolutely perfect. One day you'll find someone who you are compatible with, you'll spend time with him, create memories and in the end discover that he has been your "Mr. Right" all along.
At least that's what I'm holding my breath for...
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